Sign in

Viki Hines

The way we heal is all a matter of perspective

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Kristina Tripkovic on Unsplash

I knew the time would come eventually. Two years after that horrific accident that took the lives of two twenty-one-year-old kids, and she finally came to confront me.

I had thought about the other mother almost daily since the accident. I debated writing her a letter or sending her a sympathy card on the anniversary of our children’s deaths, but something always stopped me.

Why would she want to hear from me? What if I cause more pain?

I had ultimately decided to leave it alone and focus on grieving for just one life. …


How a small shift in perspective can alter your world

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash

This past year has been a bit of a bitch. We’ve lost our jobs, health insurance, homes, and sense of security. Many have lost loved ones. Our mental health has suffered from the loss of community, not to mention our immunity has faltered from isolation.

Despite the changes and losses we’ve collectively experienced, the past year has been one of my best yet.

Why? Because of what I’ve chosen to see.

The power of positive thinking is hardly a new concept. …


Indulge in a self-care day and regain your flow

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by We-Vibe WOW Tech on Unsplash

I know. I know. The topic of ways to overcome writer’s block has been beaten into the ground a thousand times over. So what’s different about this one? All these tactics can be done in a single day, with minimal effort, and basically…in your underwear.

We’ve all been there. You have a great idea in your head for your next piece, you sit down and manage to type up an outline (that’s the easy part), but when it comes to the meat, you can’t figure out where to start.

You type out a few sentences in an attempt to stretch-out your writing muscles, but the flow just won’t hit. This usually happens to me after I’ve had an article do very well. The pressure to follow up my last great act seems to turn my mind into mush. …


Ditch the baggage and enjoy the stuff that matters with these adventure hacks

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Timo Stern on Unsplash

When it comes to traveling, many are searching for new ways to minimize their travel footprint and focus more on the freedom to enjoy the adventure. The best way to achieve this is to analyze what you think you really need.

I recently took a very spontaneous road trip across the country from Seattle to Atlanta. The trip was more or less a business trip (if you count transporting an awesome service-dog as business), so I hopped on board as a chance to visit parts of the US that I’d never seen. …


From tragedy, our family’s favorite holiday tradition was born.

Image for post
Image for post
Photo credit Vit Kovalcik on Dreamstime

The days after Thanksgiving were quietly agonizing. No one really mentioned what was on their minds, at least not to me, but it was felt heavily throughout the family.

Our usual family tradition had been to take a ride up to the local Home Depot the day after Thanksgiving. We’d pick out a tree, my youngest son would stick his bare ass in one of the holes of the photo stand-in scene for the family picture, and then we’d decorate the following day. …


Here’s what finally worked to get my first break — and why it kind of sucked

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Anthony Tran on Unsplash

I’d been toying with the idea of writing a salty article about not getting noticed. I’d already written a few whiny paragraphs when I eventually came to my senses and decided to focus on something a little more substantial and, for lack of a better word, mature.

I’ve been writing on Medium since July, but only started taking it seriously and writing daily since the end of October. I was able to get into some top publications early on, and over sixty percent of my pieces were getting curated. …


Advice on overcoming the anxiety and pressures of dream-chasing, and being okay with where you are

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Erriko Boccia on Unsplash

We see it every day. Our social media feeds are bombarded with ads on how to make a crazy amount of money doing this trick or that trick. Twenty-something-year-olds showing everyone how they achieved financial success, making six figures in a year’s time. Everyone is doing it. Everyone wants it.

Where’s your marketing video? How about your YouTube channel?

The pressure to achieve some level of success within a certain timeframe has been a part of life for generations in the U.S. We’re supposed to chase our dreams and know what we want to do with our lives straight out of high school, or at least before we’re thirty. …


Tips from a professional short-term renter

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Meritt Thomas on Unsplash

As an aspiring vagabond, I have a lot of experience with vacation rentals. While I’m not an investor and have never rented out my own property or rooms to strangers, I do take advantage of them regularly and have stayed in about twenty different homes in the last three years. From campers in backyards to sailboats in marinas, I’ve become a bit of an Airbnb connoisseur.

My most recent stay has been a bit of an eye-opener. I’ve realized that I’ve become more of a short-term rental snob instead of the minimalist that I have been aspiring to be, and this latest experience has frustrated me enough to the point of article inspiration for those contemplating the journey to hostship. …


Why I refuse to hate on 2020

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Alice Dietrich on Unsplash

Open almost any social media app these days and you’re sure to see someone’s rant or meme about how horrible the year 2020 has been. While it has been a bit out of the norm, to say the least, I just can’t bring myself to jump on that bandwagon.

I’m not trying to downplay or make light of anyone’s suffering. I know there are people who’ve lost jobs, homes, and loved ones, and have suffered great mental and emotional anguish. But dare I say, as a society…we needed it.

I’ve had my own share of misfortunes during the pandemic. In March, I was furloughed, then eventually let go from a new job after just two months. I’ve been living off my remaining savings and retirement accounts for the last six, and have maxed out all my credit cards to survive. I had taken advantage of all the payment deferral programs offered by banks and mortgage companies, and now my six months are up. My house is currently on the market as my only means of paying off my debt. …


How planning less can lead to a happier life

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Ryan Moreno on Unsplash

I’ve flown on a plane more times than I can remember. I’m usually scared out of my wits and ordering a double Jack and Coke on a 7:30 am flight. This time…I don’t need one.

The turbulence that usually has me apologizing to the unknown passenger next to me for grabbing their leg in panic, does little to even stir me from my unexpected slumber.

What was the miracle occurrence that has suddenly kept my usual panic attacks at bay?

I don’t take medication, I’ve never sought therapy, and I haven’t recently experienced any trauma or life-altering event. …

About

Viki Hines

Free-floating centrist, writer of inspirational stories, middle-aged “woke”-ness, loss, mental health, and minimalism. https://bit.ly/3o8eKfv

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store