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Viki Fernandez-Hines

The way we heal is all a matter of perspective

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I knew the time would come eventually. Two years after that horrific accident that took the lives of two twenty-one-year-old kids, and she finally came to confront me.

I had thought about the other mother almost daily since the accident. I debated writing her a letter or sending her a sympathy card on the anniversary of our children’s deaths, but something always stopped me.

Why would she want to hear from me? What if I cause more pain?

I had ultimately decided to leave it alone and focus on grieving for just one life. …

How a former judgemental bitch joined the fight against the stigma of anxiety.

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I just gave up.

I’m embarrassed, ashamed, and afraid that I’ve let my kids and family down.

I’ve been staying in a hotel room waiting for my Airbnb apartment to become available, and I was due to start my first travel X-ray tech assignment this morning. I emailed my recruiter at 2 am — with whom I’d been in contact and preparing for this assignment for the past month — and told her I couldn’t do it.

I’m going back home.

I was supposed to work for three months at the local hospital in a small town in Indiana —…

There is no closure on love — a family’s final goodbye.

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Two of my remaining children stood on either side of me, holding my hands as I mentally prepared myself to enter the room of the funeral home. I don’t remember who’s hand belonged to whom, but I knew they might have to hold me upright if my heart was unable to handle what was on the other side of the door.

The music coming from the room where my deceased child lay was eerily soothing, and nothing that my son would have appreciated. …

The emotional and physical benefits of a good snot session

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I met a friend for lunch yesterday. While we casually chatted over hot wings and spinach dip on the outdoor patio of a quaint Irish pub, a song started to play that caused my thoughts to drift.

As he continued talking, I was blindsided with a memory that overshadowed the conversation and I felt that familiar welling-up of tears. My friend paused and asked what was wrong.

I couldn’t speak, so I turned my head away in an attempt to regain my composure. …

How a small shift in perspective can alter your world

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This past year has been a bit of a bitch. We’ve lost our jobs, health insurance, homes, and sense of security. Many have lost loved ones. Our mental health has suffered from the loss of community, not to mention our immunity has faltered from isolation.

Despite the changes and losses we’ve collectively experienced, the past year has been one of my best yet.

Why? Because of what I’ve chosen to see.

The power of positive thinking is hardly a new concept. …

Indulge in a self-care day and regain your flow

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I know. I know. The topic of ways to overcome writer’s block has been beaten into the ground a thousand times over. So what’s different about this one? All these tactics can be done in a single day, with minimal effort, and basically…in your underwear.

We’ve all been there. You have a great idea in your head for your next piece, you sit down and manage to type up an outline (that’s the easy part), but when it comes to the meat, you can’t figure out where to start.

You type out a few sentences in an attempt to stretch-out…

Ditch the baggage and enjoy the stuff that matters with these adventure hacks

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When it comes to traveling, many are searching for new ways to minimize their travel footprint and focus more on the freedom to enjoy the adventure. The best way to achieve this is to analyze what you think you really need.

I recently took a very spontaneous road trip across the country from Seattle to Atlanta. The trip was more or less a business trip (if you count transporting an awesome service-dog as business), so I hopped on board as a chance to visit parts of the US that I’d never seen. …

From tragedy, our family’s favorite holiday tradition was born.

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The days after Thanksgiving were quietly agonizing. No one really mentioned what was on their minds, at least not to me, but it was felt heavily throughout the family.

Our usual family tradition had been to take a ride up to the local Home Depot the day after Thanksgiving. We’d pick out a tree, my youngest son would stick his bare ass in one of the holes of the photo stand-in scene for the family picture, and then we’d decorate the following day. …

Here’s what finally worked to get my first break — and why it kind of sucked

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I’d been toying with the idea of writing a salty article about not getting noticed. I’d already written a few whiny paragraphs when I eventually came to my senses and decided to focus on something a little more substantial and, for lack of a better word, mature.

I’ve been writing on Medium since July, but only started taking it seriously and writing daily since the end of October. I was able to get into some top publications early on, and over sixty percent of my pieces were getting curated. …

Viki Fernandez-Hines

Free-floating centrist, writer of inspirational stories, middle-aged “woke”-ness, loss, mental health, and minimalism.

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